i’m not sure where these originated (if you know, i’d be more than happy to give them the credit they deserve) but i felt compelled to answer these questions over the next 30 days to help me explore my submissiveness deeper.
I’ll be linking my answers here as well as posting the answers each day. i’d love it if you joined me (if your submissive) and link back to me so we can do this together.
DAY 1: how do you view your submission, i.e. taken in hand, domestic discipline, top/bottom, dominant/submissive, master/slave, owner/pet, etc.?if it’s not labeled, why not?
DAY 2: describe who you might submit to and how. are you exclusively submissive in marriage or just in the bedroom?
DAY 3: how do you know you are submissive or have the potential to be submissive? how do you feel when you express your submission?
DAY 4: do you switch into a dominant role at any time? if you are in a domestic discipline relationship, are there things that you maintain control over?
DAY 5: have you been or are you in a dominant/submissive dynamic relationship or is this new to you? have you been in more than one D/s relationship? how were they the same? how were they different?
DAY 6: what do you feel are the roots of your submission? do you think it has something to do with childhood? is it a relationship management tool as in the practice of domestic discipline? is it a sexual thrill or something else?
DAY 7: do you accept and/or expect discipline or punishments as a part of your submission? how do you feel about it?
DAY 8: is spanking or corporal punishment a part of your submission? why or why not?
DAY 9: do you accept and/or expect structure, rules and limits as a part of your submission? how do you feel about them?
DAY 10: does any element of BDSM occur as a part of your submissive relationships? how do you feel about BDSM? is it core to your submission, peripheral or non-existent (other than the submission part)?
DAY 11: do you include service as a part of your expectations of your submission? how do you define service? what does it mean to you? if not, what is it about the concept of service that is not for you?
DAY 12: do you include financial submission within the definition of your own submission and if yes, how does it manifest itself? if no, is there a particular reason why? are you familiar with the concepts of financial submission? do you have an opinion about financial submission in general?
DAY 13: is sexual availability, being available to your partner any time he wants, part of your submission? why or why not? are there limits to this?
DAY 14: does religion have any bearing on your decision to submit? if not, are you familiar with religious based submission and do you view it as similar to other types of submission or dissimilar?
DAY 15: has your submission evolved over time? if so, how has it evolved for you? if not (or if you are just starting out), how might you see or imagine it evolving in the future?
DAY 16: have you found your submission has changed with different partners/relationships? if you’re involved with partners of both sexes, does your submission relate or change based on gender or does it depend on the person?
DAY 17: what does trust mean to you in the context of submission?
DAY 18: very often the stereotype of submission is that the submissive person loses the ability to have an opinion. while that clearly isn’t true except in the absolute rarest of occasions, how does communication factor into your submission and how do you communicate your desires and needs?
DAY 19: how socially connected is your submission? do you look for others to talk to about your submission for support or networking? do you go to events or connect through another sort of social grouping either in person or online?
DAY 20: has your submission increased or decreased over time? have you ever had to renegotiate your submission due to a change in your feelings or circumstance?
DAY 21: is there a physical position that makes you feel most submissive?
DAY 22: can you feel submissive without a dominant partner? if so, how does your submission express itself? if not, how do you handle your submission or submissive feelings?
DAY 23: is there anything about submission (yours or what you see in others) that you question, dislike or repels you? was there a time you questioned or were resistant to your own submissive feelings?
DAY 24: what are the emotions that most directly let you access submission? what feelings do they inspire?
DAY 25: are there items, objects or rituals that represent or help you express submission? if not, have you ever thought of adding or being gifted one? is there a special significance to these objects or rituals?
DAY 26: what are the qualities you seek in a dominant partner and why? are some qualities deal-breakers as in “must” haves or “must not” have?
DAY 27: do you have submissive desires or fantasies that you have yet to be able to explore? do some of your desires confuse or frighten you? do they excite you? what are they?
DAY 28: has your submission ever let you down? have you ever been criticized for your submission? have you ever regretted being or feeling submissive in a moment or in a relationship? have you ever looked back and realized you made a mistake and how did you handle your submission going forward from that?
DAY 29: is pain or humiliation (spankings for example) a part of your submission? what is your relationship to it? do you embrace it as a part of your submission, tolerate it as necessary or have some other type of relationship with it?
DAY 30: is your need to submit being met? if not, or if your situation changed, do you think that you could continue in your life and still be happy/content if you were never able to express your submission in the way that feels best to you again? what makes submission special to you?